A 21 year old female asked for an astrological reading. During the consultation, I discovered that she was resigned to a life without a partner creating a festering despondency within her. I asked her why she felt this way as her chart did not reveal a life devoid of marriage; only that she needed to learn to be emotionally open in relationships and that, eventually, she would attract the right partner to her.
Her response shocked me: she had previously received a reading from a well known astrologer, author of several books on astrology, who told her that a relationship was not in her destiny. I told her I saw otherwise, that while hers was not an overnight process, if she applied herself by embracing certain practices and life directions, she would eventually rise above her self-imposed limitations, for that is always what our limitations are, self-imposed. I told her to have patience and that within three years, the opportunity to find her man would be heightened, increasing her chances of success, because she, herself, would be more emotionally available to relationship and, in fact, this is what transpired.
Whether or not this famous astrologer actually told her to forget about relationships is not the point; the fact is, this is what she came away with from the reading and that responsibility falls squarely on the astrologer. Astrology is not a system of ironclad predictions but a system of personal enrichment, a process of unfoldment like a blossom opening its petals. Predictions are only as accurate as the unwillingness for a person to stay the same and become less valid the more a person sincerely embraces their own possibility of transformation.
What we find from this case is that, although the willingness to change is the responsibility of the person, revealing the direction of that change is the astrologer’s. Letting go of the past by embracing one’s deepest urges is the way to beneficial change and should always be at the core of what an astrologer offers. If you find yourself sitting before an astrologer who speaks only in predictions about the future, do yourself a favor and excuse yourself. You are a free being and no one should ever limit your possibilities.