Astrology of Joy

Category: relationships

  • A New Year of Relationships

    We all have relationships in our life.  We have relationships with people, animals, places, circumstances, objects, possessions, activities, beliefs, ideologies, etc.  We even have relationships with emotions, pleasure, and pain.  A typical human life is a vast network of relationships. The quality of our relationships, the importance we give them, and how we prioritise them determines everything about us, in this world and beyond.

    Do we have a relationship with God?  With Truth?  With our own Self?  If so, what is the quality of our relationship?  How important is it?  How do we prioritise it amongst all the other relationships? One of the most fundamental indicators of spiritual growth is the change that occur in our relationships.  As our inner being grows stronger, wiser, and purer, our relationships with people and things also grow stronger, wiser, and purer.  They are profoundly transformed.          

    Why does this happen?  Because life is a process of evolving from the ordinary to the extraordinary, from the temporary to the eternal.  There are some people who fully align themselves with this truth, there are others who do so partially, and some dismiss it entirely.  Nonetheless, this process of evolving pervades Creation.

    During the beginning stages of this evolution we tend to have many relationships that are not important.  Some are unnecessary and burdensome, some are entangled in conditioning and emotions, some are debilitating, and some are simply the product of poor understanding and delusion.  In the beginning stages, that which is worldly and temporary is most important to us.  In the later stages, that which is spiritual and eternal is most important.  

    As time goes on — whether this is in terms of months, years, or lifetimes — a spiritually-minded person gradually matures resulting in comprehensive and profound changes to their relationships.  Their relationships are purified and prioritised by the subtle workings of Grace, by the inner Companion of our own heart.

    A new year is before us:

    Let’s stop putting off what needs to be done now.

    Let’s stop relying on outer pleasures and comforts.

    Let’s rely on what’s inside us.

    Let’s follow the will of our inner Companion, not the will of our mind.

    Let’s stop being afraid of Truth.

    Let’s stop making excuses.

    Let’s be honest with ourselves and each other.

    Let’s make this new year a year of spiritual maturity such that all of our relationships are purified and prioritised.  

    And then let us live by this… this year and the year after.

  • Spring Into Love!

    Flowers rising from the snowUnderstanding the Masculine and Feminine in Relationships

    When you are in relationship with another human being, whether you realize it or not, the masculine and feminine qualities within each of you is in constant interaction. How they interact will in large part determine the success of your relationship. This is true whether you are relating to your spouse, a friend, a business associate or a relative. All relationships, at a fundamental level, are simply the play of the masculine and feminine qualities.

    Boiled down to their essence, the masculine quality is the capacity to do right action at the right time while the feminine quality is the capacity to receive action in order to create. Although every human being has both masculine and feminine qualities, in most relationships one partner will play the masculine role while the other takes on the feminine qualities.

    In man/woman relationships, the man typically takes on the masculine role while the woman embraces the feminine. When in perfect balance, the man acts and the woman receives this action, using it to manifest a certain dynamic from which she creates an emotionally secure environment in which they can thrive. This does not at all mean that a woman should not initiate action and a man is incapable of receiving, rather, at a fundamental level, the forces within each must be existing in harmony.

    For example, a business woman needs the capacity to make decisions and take action or she may be overwhelmed by strong egos. However, she makes decisions without losing her innate connection to her humanity and her intuitive capacity. Likewise, a male doctor needs to be in touch with his compassion and emotional side otherwise his bedside manner becomes dry and uncaring. Even so, at no point does he relinquish his ability to take decisive action. An indecisive doctor is a doctor no one wants.

    Elemental astrology offers a simple technique by which to determine how well you are harmonizing the masculine/feminine energies within you. In a nutshell, if these energies are not in proper balance within you and are not offset by your partner, discord, disagreement and friction will arise between you.

    Using the example of the relationship between a man and woman, ideally the man should express his masculine qualities in correct proportion to his feminine side allowing his gentler side to guide his actions. The opposite would be true for the woman. In such a relationship, the man gives to the woman through right action and does so at the right time. The woman receives this action, guides it along a proper path then uses it to create a healthy environment within which they can both prosper.

    If, however, the man is not embracing his masculine side fully, it will be difficult for him to perform right action at the right time. When a man’s feminine side dominates, it becomes corrupted leading to a tendency for him to become indecisive or unaware of what needs to be done. Similarly, for a woman; when her masculine side dominates, she becomes opinionated, domineering and rash.

    If a woman who is harmonizing her energies properly gets into a relationship with a man who is not fully expressing the masculine quality, she will experience disappointment. In short, she will easily see what needs to be done long before he does. This becomes even more challenging if this woman is expressing too much masculinity. In such a case, the relationship would prove to be quite volatile and difficult to sustain in the long term.

    How we harmonize the masculine/feminine energies within us is one of the most important concepts in astrology. In over 25 years of reading charts for literally hundreds of clients, I have discovered that the masculine/feminine balance, alone, reveals the fundamental quality of the relationship. For this reason, I always offer a masculine/feminine analysis in all my readings. This is especially true when doing a compatibility reading, a reading in which the charts of two people are examined in regards to their capacity to have a successful relationship.

    If you are in a relationship or considering one, you may find it very helpful to find out not only how these energies are interacting between you and your partner/spouse but also within you as an individual. Most people have at least a partial imbalance in their system and knowing how it influences your relationships can help you turn a troubled one into a thriving opportunity.

    If this interests you, please contact me and we can speak more about this topic. It’s a simple way to understand the hidden dynamics of your relationships so they may have every chance to prosper.