Understanding the Masculine and Feminine in Relationships
When you are in relationship with another human being, whether you realize it or not, the masculine and feminine qualities within each of you is in constant interaction. How they interact will in large part determine the success of your relationship. This is true whether you are relating to your spouse, a friend, a business associate or a relative. All relationships, at a fundamental level, are simply the play of the masculine and feminine qualities.
Boiled down to their essence, the masculine quality is the capacity to do right action at the right time while the feminine quality is the capacity to receive action in order to create. Although every human being has both masculine and feminine qualities, in most relationships one partner will play the masculine role while the other takes on the feminine qualities.
In man/woman relationships, the man typically takes on the masculine role while the woman embraces the feminine. When in perfect balance, the man acts and the woman receives this action, using it to manifest a certain dynamic from which she creates an emotionally secure environment in which they can thrive. This does not at all mean that a woman should not initiate action and a man is incapable of receiving, rather, at a fundamental level, the forces within each must be existing in harmony.
For example, a business woman needs the capacity to make decisions and take action or she may be overwhelmed by strong egos. However, she makes decisions without losing her innate connection to her humanity and her intuitive capacity. Likewise, a male doctor needs to be in touch with his compassion and emotional side otherwise his bedside manner becomes dry and uncaring. Even so, at no point does he relinquish his ability to take decisive action. An indecisive doctor is a doctor no one wants.
Elemental astrology offers a simple technique by which to determine how well you are harmonizing the masculine/feminine energies within you. In a nutshell, if these energies are not in proper balance within you and are not offset by your partner, discord, disagreement and friction will arise between you.
Using the example of the relationship between a man and woman, ideally the man should express his masculine qualities in correct proportion to his feminine side allowing his gentler side to guide his actions. The opposite would be true for the woman. In such a relationship, the man gives to the woman through right action and does so at the right time. The woman receives this action, guides it along a proper path then uses it to create a healthy environment within which they can both prosper.
If, however, the man is not embracing his masculine side fully, it will be difficult for him to perform right action at the right time. When a man’s feminine side dominates, it becomes corrupted leading to a tendency for him to become indecisive or unaware of what needs to be done. Similarly, for a woman; when her masculine side dominates, she becomes opinionated, domineering and rash.
If a woman who is harmonizing her energies properly gets into a relationship with a man who is not fully expressing the masculine quality, she will experience disappointment. In short, she will easily see what needs to be done long before he does. This becomes even more challenging if this woman is expressing too much masculinity. In such a case, the relationship would prove to be quite volatile and difficult to sustain in the long term.
How we harmonize the masculine/feminine energies within us is one of the most important concepts in astrology. In over 25 years of reading charts for literally hundreds of clients, I have discovered that the masculine/feminine balance, alone, reveals the fundamental quality of the relationship. For this reason, I always offer a masculine/feminine analysis in all my readings. This is especially true when doing a compatibility reading, a reading in which the charts of two people are examined in regards to their capacity to have a successful relationship.
If you are in a relationship or considering one, you may find it very helpful to find out not only how these energies are interacting between you and your partner/spouse but also within you as an individual. Most people have at least a partial imbalance in their system and knowing how it influences your relationships can help you turn a troubled one into a thriving opportunity.
If this interests you, please contact me and we can speak more about this topic. It’s a simple way to understand the hidden dynamics of your relationships so they may have every chance to prosper.
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